Not to sound
like my mother, but it seems to me that people just don’t know how to break bad
news anymore.
It used to be that if something
unfortunate happened, you would sit down and write a letter. Or, in really
urgent circumstances, such as an unplanned pregnancy or the reading of a will,
you sent a telegram. This kind of advanced warning gave people plenty of time
to compose themselves, think about what they needed to say when they met the
writer of the letter or telegram, and choose the appropriate outfit.
When my friend Jon suddenly
announced over lunch that Ray Bradbury had died, I looked at him blankly. My
first reaction was, “Who the hell is Ray Bradbury?” and my second, “Why does
his name sound so familiar?”
Jon saw my flustered look. “The science
fiction writer?” he prompted. “Your favourite writer when we were in school?”
The penny dropped. “Oh my God! He’s
still alive? I thought he died ages ago!”
Amanda later said that this was
probably what people would say when they found out she had died. “It’s so depressing to be forgotten like that!”
“I’m sure that can’t be right,” I
insisted. “He’s been around forever.
I was ten when I first read ‘Dandelion Wine’. And that was…that was…years ago. He must have been 110!”
“That’s probably what they’ll be
saying at my funeral,” Amanda muttered, firmly trapped in her morbid parallel
universe.
“I’m still in shock!” I told Saffy
yesterday morning. She’d just sat down at the breakfast table, staring at her
handphone.
“Not in as much shock as I am right now!”
Saffy said dramatically, her magnificent bosom inflating like two perfectly
made soufflés. “I was literally in the toilet just then doing a number two. I
don’t know what it is about me and that vegetarian bee-hoon. I only need to
take two mouthfuls and…”
“Excuse me,” Amanda said, icicles
forming around her bowl of cereal.
“Oh, right. Anyway, there I am
sitting comfortably when I get this text message from Patricia. Here, let me
read it to you.”
Even without looking, I could tell
that Amanda had edged back in her seat away from Saffy’s handphone.
“It says, ‘Hi Saffy! How are you?
Are you enjoying your holiday? I am back in Sarawak for a few days. My father
passed away. Am here to help my mum with the funeral arrangements. Talk soon.’
And that’s it. What do you make of that?” Saffy sat back in her chair. “Don’t
you just love how she rattles on about how are you, how’s your holiday, I’m
here in Sarawak and then, bam!, my
dad is dead!”
Amanda leaned forward in her chair.
Instinctively, Saffy also leaned in, no doubt with the expectation that they
were about to bond over Patricia’s oddly phrased SMS.
“Saf,” Amanda began.
“Mmmm?”
“Did you wipe down your phone after you were in the
loo?”
Later in the afternoon, Sharyn
reported that she’d just had lunch with Saffy and that all Saffy could talk
about was Patricia’s SMS and Amanda’s neurotic germaphobia. “Aiyoh, I so tired
or-redi!” she exclaimed. “She won’t even let me eat my yong tau fu. She keep
saying I must pay attention to her! Udder-wise hor, when she die and I got no
one to talk to, I regret. Choy! Where got appetite to eat when your fren keep
talking about dying! And that Amanda, hor, she think the whole world so clean
as her, meh? Everywhere got germ! How you live with those two, har? I have one
lunch, I or-redi sian, ah, I tell you!”
All day, Saffy has been sending
Amanda and me emails attaching various drafts of her response to Patricia’s
SMS. My favourite one so far has been: “Dear Pat, I’m so sorry to hear about
your dad. I always thought he was really cute. LOL. Do you need me to come with
you to the reading of the will? Maybe he left me something too? LMFAO!”
Amanda says that we’re now at an age
when more and more people we know will die and the important thing is that we
learn to take the news in our stride and not become slightly unhinged the way
Saffy has.
Meanwhile, Saffy says Patricia’s SMS
has upset her so much she thinks her constipation is back. “I sat there on the
loo for an hour this morning,” she reported. “And nothing. The entire time, I kept looking nervously at my phone!”
“Wah,” Sharyn said, “far-der of fren
die also can get constipation, ah? When I die, then how?”
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