I was at a dinner party a few evenings ago
and sat next to a lovely Danish woman who said she’d just arrived in Singapore
from Denmark, but was having problems settling into Singapore, especially in
interacting with the locals. It was an understandable commentary: It’s never
easy moving to a new country, having to adjust to new people with their
different customs, habits and way of life.
Suddenly, from
the other side of the table, someone piped up, “I’m sure this isn’t what you
do, but we Singaporeans are generally very clean and green. I see a lot of
foreigners who litter all over the place. Maybe that’s what they do in their
own country, but we frown on that sort of thing here in Singapore. Once people understand
this, it will be much easier to blend in!”
The entire table
gasped.
First of all, the
bald intimation that Singaporeans do not litter was breathtaking in its naïveté.
Secondly, the Danish lady, now looking completely ambushed, had not even said anything about littering. But what was
more worrying about the non sequitur was
the underlying insularity and perverse logic. The equation worked like this: foreigners
litter; Singaporeans don’t; and this is why foreigners often do not fit into
Singapore.
Was this how
Singaporeans really think, I wondered: That foreigners are a littering lot?
One of the
things that visitors to Singapore always comment is how clean everything is. My
friend Su-fei once coolly replied, “It’s clean only because we employ an army
of cleaners to clean up after us. And, anyway, Orchard Road is not a good
yardstick. You want to see the real Singapore? Go out into the suburbs.”
But surely, when
it comes to welcoming foreigners, the issue cannot be one of cleanliness or even
some simplistic expression of civic pride? After all, I’ve watched young adults
toss empty cigarette packets into the gutter as they stroll along the streets;
residents flipping through their mail at the letter box and dropping unwanted
catalogues and flyers onto the floor before blithely walking away; and even parents
huddled in a corner of the corridor of an MRT station urging their child to
urinate onto the floor. Our longkangs are festooned with litter, the sidewalks
with cigarette butts and drink containers, while our stairwells are dumping
grounds for old newspapers, rusted bicycles and empty cardboard boxes for TVs
and computers.
No, the issue
here isn’t about race. Nor has it anything to do with littering (though there’s
certainly a lot of that going around) and if it does, it’s not a problem that’s
caused exclusively by foreigners.
Rather, the
issue is one of humanity and common decency; of knowing how to treat each
other, fellow citizens and foreigners alike. I have seen grown (Singaporean) adults
frantically press the close-door button when someone is dashing for the lift.
People have turned away and ignored me when I’ve asked for directions. I’ve
seen customers who snatch up their receipt and shopping bags without
acknowledging the cashier with either a smile or a word of thanks. Or perfectly
able-bodied children and adults who blithely remain seated on trains while an
old man sways uncertainly on his feet, right in front of them.
I once passed
through an HDB block and came upon two boys aged around 12 (again, if you
really insist on playing the race card, one was Chinese, and the other Indian).
They were calmly lighting matches and throwing the flaming sticks at a stray
cat. Angrily, I yelled at them to stop. One of the kids looked at me, a little bemused
and a little embarrassed, and pointed at the other kid, “It wasn’t me, it was
him!”, before both slunk off. I had no doubt that, within the hour, they’d be
torturing another stray.
So my question is
this: Is this the mentality that foreigners are supposed to emulate in order to
fit into our society? Blaming the foibles of other races, and taking no
responsibility for how we welcome newcomers to Singapore – is this the
Singaporean way?
Of course not. It
simply cannot be. And as if it needed saying, none of these examples is even,
to pinch the old STB slogan, uniquely Singapore. The majority don’t behave like
this. Rudeness, insensitivity, belligerence, littering – these things happen everywhere,
all around the world; especially in foreign
countries. But the point is that it’s often so easy to assume a superior stand,
point fingers and virtuously assign blame.
So, how do we
help foreigners (itself a vicious, loaded, xenophobic term) fit into Singapore?
Well, we begin by picking up our own rubbish.
1 comment:
Totally agree with you on this. Singaporeans should consider the larger picture before pointing their fingers at others. I sometimes think that we get too conceited
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